Voddie Baucham on dating
Why should a couple be committed to courtship over dating? by Voddie Baucham; Getting Serious About Getting Married by Debbie Maken. Voddie Baucham Modern American dating is no more than glorified divorce than Samson, and more godly than David- and I was neither- so we got married. Air Date: March 4, From the series: Bridget Baucham serves alongside her husband, Voddie Baucham, Jr., at the Grace Family Baptist Church in Spring, TX. Baucham also appears on FamilyLife's Art of Marriage® ministry resource.
Biblical Courtship or Christian Dating?
We must learn to embrace such positions with a spirit of charity. Relationships Require Responsibility I must admit, when I hear family members or even fellow Christians asking my children if they have a boyfriend or girlfriend — it makes my skin crawl.
I respond — yes and no at this point I answer for my children. I have received strange looks for making statements like this, but I stand by it.
Relationships require a good measure of responsibility. From the very beginning, we see that God designed marriage to be between a man and a woman. God created Eve and presented her to Adam. In that very presentation, we see that God ordained Adam as the head of his wife Eve.
What Does the Bible Say About Christian Dating?
Adam was to take seriously his responsibility to lead Eve. Eve was to take seriously her role of submission and support Adam as the head. What young teenager in middle or high school is prepared for such responsibility? Failure to recognize such responsibility has led to a staggering number of divorces and single mother homes across America. Dating With a Purpose hint: The main reasons I gave for waiting so long to marry was because we both wanted to finish college and prepare to start life out well.
If I had it to do all over again, we would get married much earlier. My purpose and plan for marriage was subservient to other plans such as graduation and the balance of my checking account. Entering into a relationship with someone of the opposite sex should be done with a specific purpose to prepare for marriage. Not only did Samson suffer — so did his people.
In conclusion, Ric did a good job of explaining the need to make wise decisions and to go about the process of selecting a mate in a manner that honors God. He likewise encouraged parents to begin now by praying earnestly for our children and their future spouses. His point was that we must understand what courtship means and why we are spending time trying to come alongside parents and families in this series.
Parental Responsibilities for Courtship
Therefore, he encouraged us to refrain from hearing the indictment of Matthew David then moved on to talk about the goal of courtship being a lifelong covenant of marriage. As was pointed out in the first two sermons, recreational dating is glorified divorce practice. David explained the reason behind courtship. It has an end goal of faithful, committed, lifelong, covenantal marriage. Sometimes we are called as believers to suffer in marriage.
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We walk along the same path as you in this goal of helping our children understand the importance of courting a mate with a goal of lifelong marriage. Consider the example of missionary Adoniram Judson. He desired to marry a woman named Ann.
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He knew he was called to a life of missions and he likewise understood his calling to suffer for Jesus Mark 8: Before he pursued Ann, he wrote the following letter to her father: I have now to ask whether you can consent to part with your daughter early next spring, to see her no more in this world?
Whether you can consent to see her departure to a heathen land, and her subjection to the hardships and sufferings of a missionary life?
Whether you can consent to her exposure to the dangers of the ocean; to the fatal influence of the southern climate of India; to every kind of want and distress; to degradation, insult, persecution, and perhaps a violent death? Can you consent to all this, for the sake of perishing immortal souls; for the sake of Zion and the glory of God?
Can you consent to all this, in hope of soon meeting your daughter in the world of glory, with a crown of righteousness brightened by the acclamations of praise which shall redound to her Saviour from heathens saved, through her means, from eternal woe and despair?